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July 30th, 2014
Episode 211 of 628 episodes
"Most people feelunder-appreciated so if you want to make huge jumps up the career ladder, start treating other people as if you own the company.." -John Ruhlin If you've ever been that guy who gave his wife or significant other a vacuum cleaner for your anniversary - and you thought it was a great present - than this episode is for you. John Rulin, our guest for show 294, has made a success out of understanding the art of appreciation and gift giving. In this episode, John talks to us about the secret behind his still-unbroken record as Cutco's top salesman ever, how to be an amazing gift giver and how gifting can open doors in business and personal relationships,how to apply gifting in business, your own relationshipsand marriage,how John nearly died proposing to his wife andhow to cultivate thoughtfulness and creativity in the gifting process. HATE CLOTHES SHOPPING? NEVER SHOP AGAIN, JUST VISIT BOMBFELLAND SUPPORT THE SHOW More About This Show: John's career really began with the company Cutco. For those of you who haven't heard of this company, it's a cutlery company that has the (according to John) best in class product, these are some of the finest knives in the world. And Cutco offers a top of the line training program for anyone who joins the company to sell. They've been around for over 60 years and John still holds the record for most sales made. And he attributes his success at Cutco and beyond, with understanding the value in appreciating others through gift giving. The finer details of this show include: The artifact of the relationship: what does that mean and why should you know? The 6:1 ratio: what it is and how to apply it for success in every area of your life. True or False: he was good at gift-giving in business, terrible at gifting in his home life. The wild tale of howJohn ended up in the ICU when he proposed to his now-wife. The appreciation plan: what it is, how to do it and why it's important. And so much more! Sois there some secret to gift giving that John stumbled on or is it a super power he was simply born with and has tapped into? John says it's very much a muscle that anyone can learn to flex and use with the proper preparation and focus. Growing up, he was one of six kids on a farm in Ohio. His family never had a lot of money so gifts were incredibly rare and special. But it wasn't until he was in college and working for Cutco that he saw the true potential in the art of the perfect gift. He approached his then-girlfriend's father, Paul, who was known to be a generous gifter to his clients. Johnpitched him the idea of giving Cutco pocket knives to his clients.Paulasked if he could engrave the knives. John was puzzled. He agreed, ifPaulwouldtell him why he wanted engraving. Paul's response was:"If you take care of the whole family, everything else will take care of itself." What he learned from Paul washow to be memorable with clients, how to stand out with people who already get gifts and how to gifting can make a considerable difference in all relationships, from business to personal. A great example of how John would do this: he'd find a CEO he wanted to connect with, then the CEO's wife name. He'dtake a carving set and engrave the wife's name on it. Then he'd write a note that would accompany the carving set, it would say: "Carve out 5 minutes for me, I promise it'll be worth it." Naturally, John would land a meeting with the CEO. The CEO would be impressed with John's youth and fortitude. John would further cement that strong impression by explaining to the CEO how they'd set up employee appreciation programs. And John would typically get the CEO's business. Over time, John began to see that most of his clients were Type A business men, men who were terrible at gift giving both at home and at work. He realized he could capitalize on this by creating a company solely focused on appreciation and gift-giving.He has sincetrademarked the term Appreciative Leadership.And today he and his team speak, teach and consult for million dollar companies to 20 billion dollar companies, as well as professional sports teams. They help these people understand and implement ways to stand out and be memorable in any and all facets of their lives. So how do you apply gifting in your own relationships, business and personal? John says as humans we have to have something tangible to remember each other by, photographs are okay but they tend to get put away and forgotten. A memorable gift, however, can stay with someone for a lifetime. There is asubconscious effect of giving: we're all built for reciprocity. Take a look at a meeting of any heads of state, especially Asian cultures but really across all countries. When heads of state meet each other they offer gifts. Theitem you give is a token of how much you value the relationship. In business, how much is it worth to you to have your clients take your phone call? If it's worth a lot, giving a memorable and thoughtful gift is the perfect way to assure they'll pick up when you call. In your romantic relationships, many women speak the language of gifts. If you really understand why women want a big ring when you get married, you'll understand why they value presents so much. To them the ring you give her (and other gifts before and after), are a symbol of how much you value her. She feels validated every time she looks at that ring. Even if you aren't at the ring stage, a thoughtful gift will have a similar effect: if you give her something that shows you understand and cherish her, every time she sees that thing she'll be left with that feeling. And after you do get married, the gift-giving shouldn't stop there. In fact, that should be the beginning. Marriage is much like running a business, it's work but it's worthwhile in that you'll get out of it what you put into it. And giving thoughtful gifts on special occasions and NOT so-special occasions will be a worthwhile investment. If gifts are so important, how can you start giving good? John says to start by making a list of your key relationships on paper. Then jot down theshort-term and long-term value (monetary if it's a business relationship) of each. Next you're going to write down everything youknow thatmakes them tick, brings them joy, their most important people, etc. The more info you have on them on paper, the more you'll be able to do with that information when it comes to finding appreciation gifts. John has a few rules of thumb he follows. In business, he never gives a gift between Thanksgiving and Christmas. He says everyone gives gifts then and they're always the same tired gifts of wine, fruit, etc. In his personal relationships, he says topick at least 2-3 dates a year that are not birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day occasions. Those are typical gift-giving days, you want to find a few atypical dates. These atypical dates are when you will send flowers, chocolates, or some other little memento to say "I love you, I'm thinking about you." This is the only time you're allowed to send the typical flowers and chocolate-type gifts. These surprise gifts will go along way in your relationships. There's plenty more advice and gift-giving guidelines in this episode with John. Please join me in thanking him for being here and generously giving of his time, talents and experiences. He's a goldmine in every sense of the word, I hope from now on your gifts reflect what you learned here with him! 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