Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Agree? Sometimes, Being Giving Is Actually Being Needy.

October 4th, 2015

Episode 137 of 372 episodes

“How unconscious we are, often, that giving may actually be asking, asking at the very least for attention. I am sure I err in this way myself. This kind of giving for selfish reasons often ends in frustration and even recrimination: ‘I have given you so much. Why don’t you answer or respond?’ which is to say, ‘When I love you so much, why can’t you love me?’” –May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude Sometimes, we can be needy by giving. Sometimes, we can be generous by taking. Agree, disagree?