Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Do You Hate New Year’s Resolutions? This Might Be Why.

December 17th, 2015

Episode 183 of 372 episodes

When I was developing my Four Tendencies framework – which divides people into the categories of Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel — I often asked people, “How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions?” I heard from a lot of people who said, “I hate New Year’s resolutions, because for so long I made them, but could never keep them.” And certainly most people don’t manage to keep their New Year’s resolutions — four out of five people break their resolutions, and a third don’t make it until the end of January. But that doesn’t make it any less frustrating to try and fail with an important resolution. In my book Better Than Before, I describe the multiple strategies we can exploit to change our habits — which matters for New Year’s resolutions, because just about every New Year’s resolution involves a habit change. When we’re trying to master our habits, it’s important to be aware of the justifications or arguments that we sometimes invoke that interfere with keeping a good habit. They slip in so easily and quickly, it can be hard to spot them. Be on the look-out for these five popular lines of thoughts — ...