Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Don’t Fall for the Common Habits Myth that Stops People from Making Successful Change.

January 2nd, 2016

Episode 192 of 540 episodes

Assay: People often ask me, “Why do we struggle so hard to change our habits–why do we so often fail?” There are a few reasons, but there’s one big one — a popular myth about habits that leads people astray. It makes them accuse themselves of being lazy, self-indulgent, and lacking in will-power. It causes them to fail. What is this myth? It’s the myth that there’s a magic, one-size-fits-all solution for habit change. You’re read the headline: “The habits that successful people follow each morning!” “Follow these 3 secret habits of millionaires! “The one habit you must follow if you want to get ahead!” “The five habits of all highly creative people!” But here’s what I’ve discovered. And you know this, too — because it’s perfectly obvious from looking at the world around us. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. There’s no one “best” habit. Or rather, there is a one-size-fits-all-solution, which is: Follow the habits that work for you, that help make you happier, healthier, and more productive. What works for you might be very different from what worked for your brother or Steve Jobs or Virginia Woolf. Often, people make the case for adopting a particular habit by pointing to a renowned figure who practiced ...

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