Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Podcast 28: Don’t Interview for Pain, Face the Challenge of Shared Work, and Whether to Keep Ice Cream in the Freezer.

September 2nd, 2015

Episode 118 of 372 episodes

It’s time for the next installment of “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.” To listen to this episode, just zip to the bottom of this post and hit the red “play” button. Or if you’re reading this post by email, click to view online, to listen to the podcast from this post. Happier with Gretchen Rubin: Episode 28 Update: Elizabeth is an Obliger, and we’re holding her accountable for writing her novel — she explains why, in fact, she has not yet started. Try This at Home: Don’t interview for pain. I’m quoting from Michael Thompson and Catherine O’Neill Grace’s terrific Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. I love this book. Here’s the passage I read: I believe that we live the story we tell ourselves–and others–about the life we’re leading…If you constantly interview your child for pain, your child may begin to hear a story of social suffering emerge from her own mouth. Soon she will begin to believe it and will see herself as a victim…. Please understand that I am not advising you to disbelieve our children, nor am I saying that you should not be empathic…But…don’t interview for pain, don’t nurture resentments, and don’t hold ...