Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Secret of Adulthood: Lose Yourself to Find Yourself.

April 28th, 2015

Episode 47 of 376 episodes

From Further Secrets of Adulthood. I think this Secret of Adulthood operates on more than one level. One way that I “lose myself” is by reading — I lose myself in a book, and I find myself in a book. Or music, sports, drawing, cooking…there are many ways to do this. And also, sometimes we have to lose our way in order to find our way. I’m reminded of the e. e. cummings poem, “maggie and milly and molly and may”: maggie and milly and molly and may went down to the beach(to play one day) and maggie discovered a shell that sang so sweetly she couldn’t remember her troubles,and milly befriended a stranded star whose rays five languid fingers were; and molly was chased by a horrible thing which raced sideways while blowing bubbles:and may came home with a smooth round stone as small as a world and as large as alone. For whatever we lose(like a you or a me) it’s always ourselves we find in the sea I especially love that last stanza. How about you? Do you lose yourself–to find yourself?

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