Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

My experiments in the pursuit of happiness and good habits


Secret of Adulthood: Sometimes, You Have to Work Hard to Be Lazy.

May 5th, 2015

Episode 53 of 540 episodes

From Further Secrets of Adulthood. I feel this way often. I need to schedule time to be unscheduled, I need to force myself to wander, I have to reassure myself that staring into space is as useful as staring into my laptop. I guess the idea isn’t so much “laziness” and “leisureliness.” I love the quotation from Gertrude Stein, from Everybody’s Autobiography: “It takes a lot of time to be a genius. You have to sit around so much, doing nothing, really doing nothing.” It easy to assume that goofing off, play, and relaxation should be spontaneous. But I’ve learned that if something is important to me, I should find a way to put it on my calendar. That way it happens! That’s why I have some odd habits — such as to kiss my husband every morning and every night. I use the Strategy of Scheduling to make sure I make a habit of the things I want to do. On the weekends, I schedule time to read for fun. There’s never enough time to read!

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