May 6th, 2016
Episode 263 of 487 episodes
When it comes to figuring out happiness and good habits, I don’t think it matters much if you’re a man or a woman. It’s easy to assume that certain aspects of ourselves matter more than they do. For instance, birth order. People believe that birth order has a big influence on personality — but research has disproved this. Birth order just doesn’t matter for personality. Now, whether you’re a man or a woman matters in some situations, sure. But in general, in my observation, for any particular person, individual differences swamp gender differences. In my own work and research for The Happiness Project and Better Than Before, I came to believe this more and more strongly. In my experience, women, especially, often assume that they are the way they are because of being a woman. “I’m like this, and I’m like this because I’m a woman, and most women are like this.” But to me, it seems that this points to some aspect of their personality that’s not related to gender. My first and very strong clue about this came when I was devising the Four Tendencies framework. I’d noticed that many women said to me, “Why is it that busy moms ... The post Why It Doesn’t Matter Much Whether You’re a Man or a Woman, for Happiness and Good Habits. appeared first on Gretchen Rubin.